When the tour finished, no time to rest, we had to run to the conference organised by Up stichting who invited us to talk about our work here. The conference was about aging. When we arrived we heard from several people that Sjoerd, who invited us in Leeuwarden, gave the opening speech and that he mentioned his experience during our event how he prepared an apple for mv Hoekstra. This was one of the care gesture.
Care is peeling and cutting a fruit for the other
At 14.00 we had to be present by Mvr Bijsterveld and Mvr Veenstra for our private caring gesture. We decided to give them a moha necklace as a symbol of support which we felt they are for each other. In this sense it reminded us ourselves and Moha in general.
At 15.00 we went back to our sweety Atty (Mvr van de Schaaf). Our private gesture was to give her a hand treatment. However we did not get to it because we got into a deep conversation at that felt more important at that moment. She told us about her daughter, who is gay and the process of expecting it. She is coming from a religious background but that did not stop her from being open and embracing her daughter no matter what.
At 16.00 we had our meeting with Henk and Minke Kats. First we had an interesting conversation about the mother of Minke. She was sent to an elderly house when she started to need more and more care. But from then on, she decided that she wanted to dye. She stopped eating. The doctors informed the family and proposed to force feed her. When the family talked to her, she told them that she was ready to dye. Noone around her called her by her name anymore. She was only a mother, a grandmother, an aunt or a Mevrouw, but not the person she was by herself. So she was done. They managed after some organisations to request the eutanasia. Her last words were, before closing her eyes: I go to rest now. After this story, we were ready to give our private care gesture. We chose a blindfold walk for them because we felt they can challenged and they have known surrounding so well. We were surprised how much they had trust in us during this walk.